Navigating Life: Attraction vs. Attacking

In our journey through life, we encounter situations where two contrasting approaches can lead to vastly different outcomes: attraction and attacking. The way we employ these actions can significantly impact the results we achieve, making it vital to discern when to attract and when to refrain from attacking.

Attacking can serve as a valuable strategy in competitive scenarios. For instance, imagine a tennis match where you discover your opponent has a weak backhand. It makes sense to relentlessly target that weakness, increasing your chances of winning. In such contexts, attacking is a strategic move aimed at achieving a specific goal.

However, attacking can backfire when it's indiscriminately applied in situations that require a more nuanced approach. Consider the case of a highly successful attorney. His attacking style in the courtroom instills fear in his opponents, giving him a distinct advantage. Yet, this same approach undermines his effectiveness within his own office. He constantly berates his staff, creating a toxic environment that leads to high turnover rates. His failure to recognize the need for a different approach results in a lack of continuity and efficiency within his organization. What if he were to attract and nurture highly skilled and motivated employees who could streamline his business operations?

In the realm of relationships, the dynamics of attraction and attacking are equally pronounced. Take Ronald and Mary, for example. Mary's persistent attempts to spend more time with Ronald inadvertently put him on the defensive. Her statements, laden with pressure, create tension: "I haven't heard from you in 2 days," "Why can't we spend a few hours together tonight?" "I want to have dinner with you tonight; why don't you ever have time for me?" Overwhelmed by the constant demands, Ronald withdraws to reevaluate the relationship. What if Mary had taken a more attracting approach, expressing her feelings and desires without pressure: "I haven't heard from you in a couple of days, and I was wondering how you're doing. I would love to have dinner with you. I'm free between 6-9 pm tonight if you are available. I understand you're busy. It would be nice if you could find some time in your schedule for me, though. I'd really appreciate spending some time together." In this scenario, the absence of pressure fosters a sincere desire to spend time together.

The key takeaway is to pay attention and practice the right approach for each situation. When we find ourselves inside the space we've grown to love, Happiness and Harmony, we're better equipped to choose between attracting positive outcomes and refraining from attacking, creating a life filled with balanced interactions.

As always, your questions and feedback are not only welcomed but deeply appreciated.

- Happiness